I know, I know… it’s supposed to be a Resolution, not a Revelation, but I came into this year a little differently.
Right before 2008 ended, as I stood amongst a throng of people (about 2 million), I asked God to give me the same happiness in 2009 that I ended 2008 with.
I didn’t expect to leave 2008 so happy though. It was an unexpected happiness! But, of course, I’m certainly not complaining.
I read something today that got me to thinking about my own life. A very important person in my life made a post on their blogpost cite talking about their New Years Resolution. Their Resolution led me to my Revelation.
I have realized that as much as you want to be supportive of someone and show that you care for someone, you have to let that person “do their own thing,” especially if they’re the type that is hinged on their own independence. The last thing that you want to do (or need to do) is force yourself on that person. In other words, don’t press your case as if you are selling a car. If you really want to prove to them that you are there for them no matter what, then silently support their decisions. If they don’t want you to breathe down their neck with support, then don’t. Give them their space and you will see how much they appreciate you.
More to my Revelation: Never, and I mean NEVER, try to force answers out of someone, especially if you care about them. If they don’t want you to be over supportive, then what makes you think they want to throw their heart on a table and have you dissect it? That was the mistake I made. I tried to get answers to questions that were obviously predetermined. And because I tried to do that I almost wrecked a beautiful thing. So, take it from someone who has been there: Don’t force anyone to say or do anything that they don’t want to, especially if you care about them! The best thing that you can do is try and take their mind off the troubles that they already have. I’m sure they’ll get the picture that you care! 
This New Year has started a bit on the “different” side. It’s been a challenge, not only in our personal lives, but on the national scale. We have a man who is trying to lead this country down a new path of success. We have two wars, one of which that should have never been waged. We have a bloodbath in the Holy Land. We have genocide in Africa. We have massive floods in America. We have academic uncertainties. We have financial difficulties. We have an economic meltdown. We have a 1.2 trillion dollar deficit…. need I go on? I think not.
Oh, and not to mention our personal lives!
So, the trick is to get the personal life on level ground, then focus on everything else. A firm foundation is the best way to create a lasting relationship! One that lasts for years! (Ya know, the kind with Kids and the white picket fence…)
