I have been in many relationships in my 18 years of living. I completely understand that I am a young man and that I have much to learn about relationships –both intimate and friendly. This post is in complete reference to my intimate relationships… someting that I usually do NOT talk about.
Out of all the relationships that I have been in, I have been the one that was dumped in the end. There are only two exceptions where I was the one who said, “I simply can’t do this anymore.” The most recent relationship that I was in ended due to lack of communication and because other people got involved in my intimate relationship.
Over the winter break I was in a relationship with someone who I will call X. X and I were doing just fine until I came back from Winter Break. That’s when X began to act very strange– not returning texts, phone calls, emails, etc. So, I begin to think that I have done something wrong. As any normal person would I spoke to my good friend (who I will call Y) about the entire situation. Y tells me that they do not know anything about the entire situation, despite the fact that X and Y are close friends. So, I take Y’s word for it and believe them. One week passes and I am stressed out. I haven’t eaten in three days. I have not been able to focus on my studies and my grades begin to reflect that. By the end of the week I tell X to meet me somewhere where we can discuss this entire issue as adults. When we meet X breaks up with me. I am devastated. I saw it coming, but I like to think that breaking up with someone comes AFTER attempts have been made to fix whatever the issue is. Now, the twist is this: Y comes to me about 4 days after I have been dumped and informs me that they knew EVERYTHING that was going on in my relationship with X. I am SHOCKED and of course I am PISSED OFF!
That is when I learned that other people should NOT be in my relationships. I made a promise to myself that other people will NOT be in my relationship–besides me and the person I am with… and That’s final! And if I feel that someone is trying to know too much information about my relationships, I will CUT OFF that conversation abruptly and rudely. ( I know that I have always said that there is never a reason to be rude, but everything has its exceptions)
In the past, I have also been cheated on, lied to, and dumped for one of my good friends… If you really look at it my relationships have ended because the other person could not be faithful. And that is sad. It makes you want to give up on trying to find that “perfect person”. Fortunately, I’m not one to give up. I may have actually found that person. But that’s all you will know…
Just know this: do NOT try to come between me and the person I am committed to, because there will be HELL to pay!
Thx
